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Training @ Lithuanian Parliament

paulkoeck — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:31:03 +0000

On Friday, I will give my training at the Lithuanian Parliament. You can also follow with live video streaming on the internet in English and Lithuanian translation:

„How can Leaders and Governments resolve unemployment with „Solution Focused Reactivation Strategies“?

Gerbiamieji,

Kviečiame Jus į Dr. Paul Koeck, patyrusio lektoriaus, Coachteam® International įkūrėjo ir vadovo, dirbančio su įvairių šalių verslo kompanijų atstovais, paskaitą
„How can Leaders and Governments resolve unemployment
with „Solution Focused Reactivation Strategies“?

Paskaita vyks: spalio 30 d., 9.00 val.
Vieta: Seimo Europos informacijos biuras (Seimo III rūmai, Gedimino pr. 53, Vilnius).
Trukmė: 2 val.
Darbo kalba – anglų k.

Į paskaitą kviečiami visi, kuriems tenka priimti sprendimus, susijusius su nedarbo keliamomis socialinėmis problemomis bei siekiantys keisti negatyvų žmonių požiūrį.

Nepraleiskite šios progos – dalyvavimas nemokamas!
Plačiau apie lektorių Dr. Paul Koeck – http://www.paulkoeck.com/about/
Registracija el. paštu eib@lrs.lt arba tel. (8-5) 239 6000

Interview by Dr. Joszef Telkes in Budapest

paulkoeck — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 13:47:45 +0000

Last saturday, I was interviewed in Budapest by Hungary’s psychiatrist & celebrity, Dr. Joszef Telkes about our new online e-therapy business:

Internet Assisted Psychotherapy interview by Jozsef Telkes.

Co-creating Lasting Love

paulkoeck — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 23:08:24 +0000

A discussion with a friend reminded me following transcript of a diaogue among two of my most important mentors. It reflects deeply my personal beliefs about Lasting Love:

In 1959, Jay Haley, the famous family therapist, asks his mentor, Milton H. Erickson, MD, the words most renowned hypnotherapist and psychiatrist: “If you were to describe what a good marriage is, how would you describe it?” Milton H. Erickson replies: When I describe a good marriage to my patients, I point out to them that there are essentailly four kinds of Love:

The infantile type of love, “I love me.”
The next stage, “I love the me in you. I love you becaue you are my brother, my mother, my father, my sister, my dog. The ‘me’ in ‘you’.
Then the adolescent type of love, “I love you because your dancing pleases me, and because your beauty pleases me, and because your brains please me.”
The adult stage of love wherein, “I want to love you and cherish you because I want to see you happy, because i can find my happiness in your happiness. The happier you are, the happier, I’ll be. I’l find my happiness in yours. Il” find delight in your pleasure and intellectual persuits. I’ll find a delight in your enjoyment of dancing.” So the mature love is the capacity to find enjoyment in the enjoyment of the other person’s enjoyment. It works both ways.

Dr. Erickson continues: ‘So in a good marriage upi’ll see some of the “I love me.” You should expect that. You’ll see some of the I love the me in you. You’ll see some of the adolescent variety of your good qualities that please me. But there should be a very considerable percentage of the enjoyment of the other person’s state of happiness.
It isn’t enough to just enjoy your wifes cooking. You ought to enjoy the “pleasure” that she has in cooking. You ought not just enjoy the fact that she keeps the kids quiet while you are working. You want to enjoy, really, the pleasure and satisfaction that she gets out of dealing with the kids, even though you can’t understand why that particular dealing with the kids gives her so much satisfaction. It is beyond your capacity to understand, but you are so glad she enjoys it. You know that as long as she ’s happy, enjoying inexplicable things, you’re going to be happy too.’

I wanted to share this wisdom with you. Who would not dream of such a lasting loving relationship? Paul

P.S.: A friend has sent to right now another interesting related quote:
Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’
Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’

Paul Koeck

admin — Sun, 31 May 2009 19:31:17 +0000

Paul Koeck, MD, BA, is president and founder of Coachteam® International. He works as business coach for top-executives, and is in surplus an excellent therapist and physician. He created the Coachteam® philosophy ’Goal-Directed, Solution-Focused Coaching‘, being the pioneer in Europe in Solution Focused Coaching for Business Leaders & Organisations! Paul defines the keys to success clearly: ‘Successful people know what they want to achieve, how to get there, how to mobilise thé required resources and … they dare to be thé Captain of their soul’. Dr. Paul Koeck is an authority in the field of business & career coaching and competence development. He is a frequent keynote speaker, coach & trainer on international scientific conferences and at universities, all over the world. His model and techniques are used in different continents, countries and languages. He is the creator of several expert systems for managing the change of human behaviour.

Paul studied medicine, philosophy and sports medicine at the Catholic University of Louvain. After his management studies, at the VLERICK School for Management, he was profoundly trained in systemic coaching, brief therapy an hypnotherapy in Europe an the U.S.A.

As a trainer, consultant and coach he served important business leaders and organisations like Alcatel-Lucent, KPMG, BASF, Siemens, Borealis, IBM, Swift, Nextiraone, Janssen Pharmaceutica, Banksys, HP, Junior Chamber International, Haribo, Proximus, Belgacom, Delta Lloyd Life, Generale Bank, Belgian Military Police, Anco, Givi, Axias, IPPA, HBK Spaarbank, Vlaams Centrum voor Kwaliteitszorg, Socialistische Mutualiteiten, Onafhankelijk Ziekenfonds, Arenberg Group, Partena, Prayon Ruppel, Pandora, … He coaches fluently in 5 languages: Dutch, English, French, Spanish, German and studied Italian, Portuguese, Latin, Esperanto, & Russian.

Radio Interview with Dr. Paul Koeck about digital stress: Part 1 - Part 2